Tag: Divorce
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Episode 27: Don’t be a hero
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-47kp5-150e96f This Sunday we discussed the concept of NOT being a hero – allowing ourselves to not be the best at everything while we take much needed time for ourselves to heal and grow and reset.
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Episode25: How do we reorganize our lives after divorce?
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-7pkpk-14e4b51 This week we discuss ways we have reorganized our lives after divorce to better fit our lives. From new routines to how we think about our homes we have found ways to more fully love our lives. Do you have a topic you would like for us to discuss? Send us an email at…
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Episode 24: Tiggers – when you are blindsided by your former marriage trauma
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-sm4e2-14bf538 This week we talked about those times when the toxicity of our former lives blindsides us and triggers anxiety or fear. Listen as Lauren describes how she uses her theater training to step outside of her triggered moments to identify what is happening and see it for what it is so she can let…
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Episode 22: Money – how to start starting over after divorce Part 2
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-v42zq-14a2e02 Join us for PART 2 of our episode of how to start starting over after divorce with your finances. Carolyn has some wonderful advice on how to get started in setting priorities with regard to money.
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Episode 21: Money – how to start starting over after divorce Part 1
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-aufyd-14a2dfe Dr. Carolyn Pistorius has been divorced for several years and is incredibly financially savvy. Join us as she gives us some tips and advice on managing our finances on our own after divorce. Part 1 of 3!
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Episode 20: Taking a personal inventory of your strengths and weaknesses
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-6g4w9-14a16a5 When we started over after divorce – or one of the many times we felt we weren’t making in progress in the starting over process – we took a personal inventory of our strengths and weaknesses. Knowing who you are and how to play to your strengths and make your weaknesses work for you…
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Episode 19: What are you looking for in a new partner after divorce?
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-cs549-149777c Now is the time to make your list of the things most important to you in a new partner. Now, when you aren’t in a relationship. Your non-negotiables will be easier to define if you aren’t with someone who may already be a compromise on them, right? What did you learn from your marriage?…
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Episode 18: Overwhelmed with life? Little ways to get unstuck
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-8vict-148eb73 What do we do when we are stuck in a rut? Overwhelmed with life? This week we talked about some of the ways we purposefully change things up to help us engage in life again and live in the glass half full instead of the glass half empty. Join us on the porch!
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Episode 16: Life is short! How are you using your time?
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-i4mpy-1472e8c This week the Champagne Girls talk about how they are using their time. Our lives are precious and that clock is ticking! How are we spending our time? Who are we letting in? What are we doing with this gift of time that we have been given?
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Episode 14: So many things . . .
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-6zi8z-1460e5e In this episode we tried to stay on topic discussing how we plan to continue to move forward and engage in self care and moving toward our goals once the new school year begins. However, it turns out we also wanted to talk about custody agreements, how healing from trauma can look like depression,…
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Champagne Split 1: How and where do I begin to create a life I love?
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-h2fix-1436f1f Welcome to our first Champagne Split – a shorter conversation we feel has insightful discussion worth its own episode but not quite long enough to be considered a full episode. In this first Champagne Split, Beth discusses the list she made to help her define what was most important to her to use to…
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Episode 13: How do we deal with irrational anxiety?
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-ujhu4-1436eb3 In this episode Bonnie, Lauren, and Beth discuss strategies to handle that anxiety that creeps in when life is going well. It is not always comfortable to be without the chaos and anxiety we felt in our toxic marriages.
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Episode 10: How do we deal with the life our ex has created? – Part 2
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-eknqy-142f5eb This week Lauren, Beth, and Bonnie continue their discussion about dealing with the lives their ex’s have created for themselves as well as other topics related to the way life goes on. Making the effort to stay in a positive place is well worth the effort. Join us on the porch!
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Episode 9: How do we deal with the life our ex has created i.e. the other woman (Part 1)
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-45ef4-142f4c5 In this two part episode Beth, Lauren, and Bonnie discuss how they have approached dealing with their ex’s having significant others, especially with regard to their kids, and a few other related topics. Join us on the porch!
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Episode 8: How did we know we were DONE?
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-k546m-141c95c How did we know we were DONE and ready for divorce? It turns out we each had one specific moment when we knew we were at the end.
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Episode 7: How did it feel to finally get to the other side of divorce?
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-4ik66-141c913 In this episode Lauren, Beth, and Bonnie talk about how wonderful it feels to make our homes our own after divorce as well as a myriad of other things, like lessons learned dating, etc. Join us on the porch as we talk about how we are creating lives we love on the other side…
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Dust
“We can’t always assume the broken pieces of our life circumstances are terrible and pointless – not with our God.” Lysa Terkeurst Seeing Beautiful Again (23) This was in the devotional I read this morning by Lysa Terkeurst. She goes on to talk about dust and the pottery process and how something new can be…
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Defining Convictions/Beliefs
I use the word “conviction” because it sounds so much more non-negotiable than the word “belief”. I didn’t even realize I had convictions until a big one was staring me down. And, it took a really long time for me to clearly define this conviction. It was:
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She would have been 107 this month
My grandmother, Mama, lived to be 105. She passed away the January before Covid hit and thankfully didn’t have to deal with any of that. It is funny, we all worried about her health all the time and she never really seemed to. She didn’t really consider death, from what I could tell, even after…
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Silly Songs . . .
Life has taken unexpected twists and turns since I spent my days innocently singing along with Bob and Larry. I think of the woman I was and wonder, if I could travel back to her and tell her anything, would I? Would I tell her to brace for what was to come? Would she even…
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Live like a college graduate
I am thankful for my Lifetime moments as much as my Hallmark moments. I am thankful to just feel again, all of the feels, to have been broken open and set free to experience life once again. Every day is a day for a new beginning or to pick up an old beginning again. I…
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How do I look at such a toxic and traumatic time through a lens of love, and why would I want to??
I was scrolling through TikTok last night, watching the many videos on trauma, toxic relationships, and narcissism that tend to be on my “for me” page, and I recognized myself in literally almost every post. I understand the trauma, I have lived in the toxicity, I have labeled my ex as a narcissist without any…
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If it was toxic for me, it was toxic for him
But what I could not see due to the bubble I had crawled into to try to protect myself, was that if I was in a toxic relationship, SO WAS HE. He was not choosing to live in a toxic place on purpose. Who would do that? He was miserable too. No one actually wants…
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My closet is my happy place. . .
It was like the closet was a symbol of my life if it were put together, neat and tidy.View post to subscribe to site newsletter.
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Wait. What?? What do you mean I am not in control?
My ultimate goal when I woke up every day was to see my life and my people through a love paradigm. This is still my goal. How could I have regret if I loved my way through the difficult times instead of allowing bitterness to reign?View post to subscribe to site newsletter.
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Fatal Optimism (I made that up)
I allowed myself the possibility that happiness could be realized in the paths I had once been so dead set against instead of the one I was so dead set ON. I conceded that I was not giving up on the commitment I made in my marriage, I had lived it out. When I chose…
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Easter Sunday
He can and DOES take situations and parts of us that we think are dead and gone and he resurrects them as something new. This right here, this is an amazing and wondrous thought, isn’t it? God can raise the dead. If he can raise the dead he most certainly can breathe new life into someone who…