Share the load. . .

“People tend to become like you treat them or believe them to be.”

– Stephen R. Covey

I cannot begin to tell you how much I LOVE, LOVE this commercial. I was raised in the South, where traditionally, mom stays home with the kids and takes care of the housework and the general raising of the kids. I did this. I stayed home until my youngest went to kindergarten – which was about 12ish years at home with my kids and the albatross of doing it ALL.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  I am thankful beyond measure for my years at home with my kids. I am NOT, however, a great housekeeper, chef, or budget person. I HATE housework. I do it, but I don’t love it.  I was miserable at home. I spent so much time missing the joy of my sweet babies because I knew I “needed” to be home working on the house. Ugh. To get those days back. . .

When I started working, I felt a joy I had never felt before. I am independent, I am contributing to my family in a way I can feel successful.  I never felt successful at housework, at managing our home.  It was hard to feel like a failure so often and it also welled up an embarrassing amount of guilt for wanting to do anything for myself.

I have worked for the past 6 years and it has become more and more apparent that my kids need to be involved in keeping our house a home. In some ways, I feel like we all need to live as if we were roommates, not family, so we learn to fully respect each other’s shared and personal space. My kids need to know how to be good roommates and good steward’s of their time, just as I do.

For the past few weeks I have been texting a chores list to my kids daily so they will know what is expected of them to help get our home in order. Our lives are so busy and so spread out between soccer, football, tumble, etc. that our needs change too often for a chore chart set in stone. So, I evaluate in the morning who is doing what and what needs to be done and spread it out. It is working ok so far – especially since I have a 6th, 9th, and 12th grader.

Any suggestions on how to manage this more effectively? I’m happy to hear your thoughts!

To plan is . . .

planning – noun; the process of making plans for something

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“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” – Ben Franklin

“He who fails to plan is planning to fail.” – Winston Churchill

“Failing to plan is planning to fail.” – John Wooden

Planning. I love a pretty planner. I love to plan. However, planning consistently has proved to be a challenge for me. I tend to be a “fly by the seat of my pants” type of girl. I also tend to let my tasks swallow me up and only realize I’ve missed an opportunity or have nothing clean to wear when I am desperately searching for a clean pair of panties 15 minutes before I have to walk out the door – which may or may not have happened within the last week . . .

When I do plan, I feel more in control of my life and feel like I am more effective while wearing each of my different hats (mom, wife, teacher, IB Coordinator, yearbook sponsor, newspaper sponsor, etc. . . . .. . . ) It is important.

Recently, I bought a new planner. For the past 3 years I have faithfully used a Erin Condren Life Planner. This year I am trying a Plum Paper ME Planner and so far it is helping me stay on top of my goal to plan each week – activities, to do’s, meals, exercise, etc. (Granted, I only began on Feb. 1 – but my fingers are crossed!).

My goal is to discover and live my convictions with balance and I believe planning will go a long way in helping me accomplish this goal. What exactly needs balance? When thinking long and hard about this question (like years) I came up with the following list: Faith, marriage, parenthood, health, finance, education, work, and friendships (after all, that is what life is about, right?). These are the areas that need my consistent attention in order to feel complete, balanced, and in true discovery for my convictions.

Step one to accomplishing this goal?

PLAN CONSISTENTLY!

 

Websites @ planning:

http://iheartplanners.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/HowtoColorCodeYourPlanner-17.jpg

http://www.girl-organized.com/category/planners/

http://theswirlblog.com/2015/07/31/planning-for-planners-part-3-the-plum-paper-planner/

http://www.success.com/article/7-habits-of-highly-effective-people

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/9-tips-to-create-a-balanced-life/

This is me . . .

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This is my mission statement:

Be positive.

Be supportive.

Spend time with those I love.

This is my only life.  I will live it body and soul.

This is the question:

How in the world do I accomplish the fireworks explosion of “to-dos” and still live my mission statement? 

This is the blog of the journey I am undertaking to truly discover and live my convictions.